Mohammad Ali sahab ko allah jannat naseeb kare ! Woh mere mareez the. Main ilaj to kiya kerta bus 'palliative treatment' hi thi. Unhe late stage 'carcinoma of the gallbladder' tha. Mohammad Ali sahab ko allah ne bari daulat di magar 'down to earth' aadmi the.
Aik roz main un ki ayadat ko gaya to ghar pe koi nahi tha. Us din mohammad Ali sahab ka dard-e-shikam qadre kum tha. Us din aakhri baar hum ne bohut saari batain ki. Main ne poocha: "Mohammad Ali sahab - is there anything I can do beside a doctor ?"
Unhon ne bari ajeeb darkhwast ki. Bole: "Tum america ja rahe ho (I was about to leave for USA). Agar ho sake to wahan meri beti ki talaq kerwa dena" !!
Mujhe bohut hairat hui ! Mere istafsar pe unhon ne bataya.
"Hur baap ki tarah main bhi chahta tha ke meri beti achhi jagah bihai jaaye. Jub meri beti Naseema ka rishta aaya to mujhe log bohut pasand aaye. Lurka bhi parha likha tha. America main settle tha. Main ne beti se pooche bagair haan ker di. Naseema farmanbardar bachhi thi. Kuch na boli magar mangni ke 2/3 hafte baad mujhe meri begum ne bataya ka Naseema khush nahi lagti. Main ne Naseema se poocha ke kiya baat hai. Naseema ke paas lurke ki napasandidgi ka koi khas uzar to nahi tha magar woh beshaq is shadi se khush nahi thi. Koi baat thi jo use tang ker rahi thi magar woh keh na paayi. Main riwayati baap bun gaya. Ye jaante huwe bhi ke beti ko lurka pasand nahi, hum ne daulat hasiat dekh ker shadi ker di. Is baat ko 9 baras ho gaye. Naseema jo gai to aik baar bhi wapas nahi hai magar logon se pata chalta hai ke uska shohar us pe aaye din haat uthata rehta hai. Uski zindagi jhannum bani hui hai. "walmart" main cashier ki subah se sham job kerti hai aur ghar pe 3 bachhon ka baar hai. Jo kamati hai, shohar ke cigarette, sharab aur juwe (gambling) ki nazar ho jata hai ! Naseema ko jis jhannum main hum ne jhonka hai uska madawa kese ho. Na hum se koi baat kerti hai, na koi gila na koi shikayat. Bus merne se pehle aik dafa beti se muafi mangna chahta hun aur chahta hun azad ho jaaye".
Mohammad Ali sahab faut ho gaye. Is baat ko bhi mazeed 15 baras ho gaye magar unka qarz mujh pe baqi hai. Mujhe to ye kehne ki himmat nahi hui ke dafa karain, azad ho jaayain. Naseema Baji ab bhi "walmart" main cashier hain. Ghar ki surate-haal ka to mujhe ilm nahi magar itna zaroor jaanta hun ke ab bhi unka shohar hur weekend Atlantic City main guzarta hai !
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hamare maashre mein social pressures buhut hain. walidain aam tor per in pressures mein aaker faisle ker lete hein. Mohammad Ali sahib to uss faisle ka madawa kerna chahte the shayad magar mein ne aise bhi log dekhe hein k faisle k ghalat hone ka ahsas hone per bhi woh dobara ussi ko waim rakhne per zor dete hain. waja wohi k izzat khak mein par jaey gi, log kia kahin ge waghera. iss tarah farmanbardar aulad bardasht kerti jati hai
There is a reason, Islam as well as most religions and cultures allow divorce.
Human souls should not get crushed below a paper of agreement.
Although Islam and other religions do allow divorce, but the society we are living in doesn't let a woman get her right.
Divorce k baad koi nahin dekhta k divorce ki reason kya thi ya yeh k ye shaadi hui kis base per thi. All blames come to the girl, is ka character hee aisa tha etc. etc.
I second what 'saeedses' has said. Most of the times, a woman doesnt even seek divorce because of this social taboo of being called a divorced woman, which invariable believed to be woman's fault and if she has kids, esp. daughters, this causes trouble when they are to get married.
Yes, but people and the woman doesnt see how that violent or abusive relationship is affecting the kids. I accept the woman doesnt want the kids to grow up with single parent and all the problems that it can lead to. Has anyone thought how badly it affects the kids that grow up in that kind of household. It affects their psyche for life and they too grow up full of resentment and hatred which itself affects their future relationships.
Agreed. Sometimes its best to get out of that relatinship to save your sanity and your kids', but as our so called 'islamic state' isnt really a welfare state, who is going to support that woman and her kids if she doesnt have means to do that? Thats another reason which makes the woman think twice before taking this step.
Ahan. So it all boils down to quality of life. Financial over psychological? Its OK to go insane as long as u have food on ur table and your kids get their education and finally get married and then you can commit suicide!
No it boils down to personal preferences and choices and having the courage to make decisions about your life and the strengths to face the consequences.
hmm...well i guess a woman sacrifices a lot either way. Its a catch 22 situation. You cant win either way. May God spare us from these kind of trials and tribulatons. Both as a woman and as her kids...
Thats why we should bring our daughters up in a way that enable them to make the right choice when time demands and provide the education and skills that would help them in such hard times. and most of all support them morally at every step so that they dont feel alone.
After this emotional speech, a gentle reminder. This is diary's blog and we better just leave a simple comment here and have our discussion at our own blog.
Yes, but I guess diary wont mind us using her pages to express our opinion. Will you diary?
Express your opinion, not having a lengthy discussion and that too without diary being part of it!
Whatever.. :(
err..diary isnt saying anything. I guess we better disappear now.
well I'd say its not only the woman n her family that gets affected but man's side too. His family too gets a bad name. though it again hits the women, the women in his family. people will dont find it bad for their daughters to marry the divorcee . but the very same ppl wont like their son to marry sister of divorcee man. the things wil be like 'inhon ne kuch kaha hoga jo bhai ka ghar ujar gaya','iss larki ki maan ne apni bahu ko bardasht nahi kia to beti bhi aise hi kare gi'
Annony 1 and 2...
It was a healthy discussion. All discussion happen between 8.32AM to 9.15 AM so there was no time to make comment.
But this is so complicated that any single comment can't make of it and you guys cover most aspects.
huh?
What is complicated?
By the way, what makes you think its anony 1 and 2? why not 9 and 15? and who is 1 and who is 2?
Actually discussion had a cold and runny nose and...aacchoooo
Dear Diary,
Tell all these annoying anonys off for wasting your pages. Esp. the last one with bad cold.
Have nice scribble on ur pages,
Bye.
ooohhh...so its 'Dear Diary' now and behind my back.....aacchhoooo
Just by the way Dear Diary, was just wondering why not 1/2 and 1/2 anonys? you know the split personality thing and all the hilarity and horror that goes with it?
naa..its not 1/2 and 1/2. the personality is split but the person is the same and whole at one given time, so more like anony 1 and anony 1 ...again.
err....Dear Diary, are you going to ban us now?
plz say something....
well i was still wondering if we can call us anonymouses just like 'saeedses' since it sounds like there are a lot more 'saeeds' in that one 'saeedses' and anony 1 and anony 1 can get confusing esp. when u r telling them off. Although you can still call them anony 1 and anony one, but not as interesting as anonymouses.
Dear diary, if you approve of this we'll give the credit to 'saeedses' since she is the source of our inspiration.
Objection ..objection.
Dear diary we are not mouse or mouses or even mice.
Anony 1 and Anony one sounds better, but you have to decide since its your page.
I kept reading and kept laughing..
you guys are going crazy !!
Probably I need to write another post soon, so this discussion gets over
lol..I agree even though I am not either of those other two...I believe their conversation cheered me up after the glum note :)
I guess its the same person leaving all those comments. See the time difference between the comments and another clue he has given, 'split personality'.
In any case, its true, by the time I read the last comment here, I had forgotten what the actual post was all about :)
@ Anonymous(es) 4thLast:
First of all i am He not a She, secondly saeedses isn't combination of many saeeds its my full name's abbrevation :P
BTW i like the term anonymouses.
@ saeedses last:
Dil ko dil sai rah hoti hai. Kia aap dono Hindi movie main bicchrrai huai behan bhai hain? You ppl have same surname...'SES'!
Find your respective halves of that family picture that is the ONLY proof of you being brother and sister....long lost.
@ saeedses 1st and Last:
Nope. You dont have a case.
Firstly bec. plural like you usu. dont have a gender, e.g. group, class, parents, saeedses...
Secondly, had ur name started with an 'H' general public wud have happily considered you a 'he', since its an 'S', elementary dear Watson, you're a SHE.
Lastly, whats wrong with being a SHE?! If Pakistan can be a she, y not you?
Block all these morons.
HANG them!!!
I have a feeling too now that this is a 'single person' playing a 'split personality'....
is it?
Yes, you caught me. It was me. Im glad you all enjoyed my conversation. ciao.
Yes, you caught me. It was me. Im glad you all enjoyed my conversation. ciao.
Yes, you caught me. It was me. Im glad you all enjoyed my conversation. ciao.
Yes, you caught me. It was me. Im glad you all enjoyed my conversation. ciao.
Hey, whats happening here?
Who are you 'ciao dude'? You were not even there when that 'discussion' took place. I know because the other chap was sitting next to me in the study lab.
and whos sending messages to 'saeedses'? Anyway, its reassuring that you like the term 'anonymouses' but 'saeedses' no matter how much we love you, we cant use it anymore since someone else has hijacked it.
and dear diary, thanks for putting up with us. We'll refrain from leaving comments here again esp. when sitting next to each other.
Happy writing!!
Per Ghalib !
Ya ilahi ye majra kiya hai
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