Friday, June 30, 2023

The Twists And Turns Of Life: A True Story

He was a dashing Pakistani Army Captain and she was an alluring Bengali Dhaka Medical College graduate training at CMH. (Combined Military Hospital).


It was February of 1970 when tensions were building in every corner of East Pakistan. The Captain and the Doctor fell in love when they met at CMH. But both their families disowned them. Marrying the enemy was not acceptable, emotions were raw and anger was overflowing.

Nevertheless, the young couple married and made themselves a cozy home in a rented house. Many were leaving for Pakistan and moved out of Dhaka.

Her family refused to meet her husband and his family sent letters of disdain from Pakistan but the young couple were in a state of euphoria.

Soon she was pregnant and he was ecstatic. It was the first week of December, the Captain was in trenches with his commanding officer who was a Major. The Captain told  his commanding officer that his wife was in labour at the CMH, if he dies during the heavy bombing, please give her this message that the last ten months have been the happiest time of his life.

Later that day the Major went for a field meeting only to come back and found the trenches been bombarded and the Captain has died.

The Major remembered that the Captain’s wife had been in labour, he rushed to the CMH. At the hospital, a grim faced lady Doctor informed the Major that the Captain’s wife has died in childbirth five hours ago and they were waiting for the Captain to come and take his baby girl home.

The Major had to make  a split second decision... if he told them the father is also dead, the baby might be given in care of strangers. Instead he calmly told the Doctor that the baby’s father was slightly injured and would not be able to travel for a few days but please take good care of the baby girl and someone would come and take her home in couple of days.

When the Major got home that night his wife was in a frenzy...packing a few things. She and their two sons were to leave in two days by a ship for Karachi. The Major told his wife what happened and there was no choice but to go to CMH and pretend to be an aunt of the new born baby girl and take her to Karachi. When the war will be over they will search for her family and hand her over to them.

The Major’s wife was bewildered but she did as her husband asked and left with the baby girl for Karachi. The rest is history!!

In the next few days, the Pakistani army surrendered and the Major became a prisoner of war. In the meantime, the Major’s wife now in Karachi, anxious and frightened for her husband was lovingly taking care of the baby girl and told her  relatives that this was her daughter.

Eighteen months later after the  release of prisoners of war, the Major returned home to find a happy and healthy baby girl along with his two young sons playing in the front lawn.

Over the next few years, there was no communications between Bangladesh and Pakistan. Finally after six years of trying to find any relatives of their adopted daughter  they gave up.

By now his wife was so attached to the little girl that any mention of trying to find relatives made her panic and cry.

Eighteen years went by, the baby girl had graduated from Karachi Grammar and was in college. The Major now a Brigadier General wanted to tell his adoptive daughter about her father but his wife refrained him from doing so.

Countless arguments and emotional exchanges could not make him change his mind. He retrieved the only worn out black and white picture he had of the Captain. The picture was taken at the Dhaka Cantonment Officer’s Club. He took it to the photo studio got it enlarged and framed.

The next week he asked both his sons, who were at university in other city, to come home for a few days. All three children were worried thinking their father might be ill. He asked his adopted  daughter to sit next to him as he held her hand. He wrapped his other arm tightly around his wife. Calmly he spoke of that day when a young Captain under his command told him about his Bengali wife, a Doctor, who was in labour at the CMH and if he died to tell his wife how much he loved her. The Captain died that afternoon and so did his wife while giving birth to a beautiful baby girl. Tears rolled down his face as he turned to look at his adopted daughter and handed her the only picture of her father.

The baby girl is now fifty plus years old, married and has a daughter...who is about to be married in a few weeks. A large picture of her biological father hangs on the drawing room wall. Every time she looks at the picture she wonders who was her mother. A young Doctor who defied her family and married her Pakistani father.

The Major now eighty two years old looks out from the window of his seventh floor apartment in Karachi and wonders if he did the right thing that fateful afternoon when he took the orphan baby girl and brought her up as his own.

P.S.
Real names are withheld for privacy reasons.
The Brigadier General and his wife have now passed away.

From the wall of Farzana Ursani
Kids of Parsi Colonies (Karachi & Global)

Tuesday, June 27, 2023

One of the Finest of Nasir Kazmi

Years after years, I can't get over the beauty and depth of NK this ghazal - written after the 1971 East Pakistan/Bangladesh war.


وہ ساحلوں پہ گانے والے کیا ہوئے 
وہ کشتیاں چلانے والے کیا ہوئے 

وہ صبح آتے آتے رہ گئی کہاں 
جو قافلے تھے آنے والے کیا ہوئے 

میں ان کی راہ دیکھتا ہوں رات بھر 
وہ روشنی دکھانے والے کیا ہوئے 

یہ کون لوگ ہیں مرے ادھر ادھر 
وہ دوستی نبھانے والے کیا ہوئے 

وہ دل میں کھبنے والی آنکھیں کیا ہوئیں 
وہ ہونٹ مسکرانے والے کیا ہوئے 

عمارتیں تو جل کے راکھ ہو گئیں 
عمارتیں بنانے والے کیا ہوئے 

اکیلے گھر سے پوچھتی ہے بے کسی 
ترا دیا جلانے والے کیا ہوئے 

یہ آپ ہم تو بوجھ ہیں زمین کا 
زمیں کا بوجھ اٹھانے والے کیا ہوئے

ناصر کاظمی

Monday, June 26, 2023

The Art of Dying

 We all wish that when the time comes, we want to go fast. Here is another perspective:

I always said that when my time came I’d want to go fast. But where’s the fun in that?

A bit lengthy but interesting - Read the article here:

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/12/23/the-art-of-dying-peter-schjeldahl

Thursday, June 22, 2023

Tuesday, June 20, 2023

My all time favorite - Uncle Sargam

 What a character created by Farooq Qaisar. Great sarcasm on getting rotten society.



Tuesday, June 13, 2023

Life is all about calibration

Once, I shared my favorite quote: "Life is all about perception," with my biomedical engineer cousin. He works with a blood pressure machine-making company. He looked at me and replied:

"I think life is all about calibrations!!'

We both laughed. 

If you think: It's true. If you learn the art of calibrating things in life including time, relationships, needs, luxuries, etc. - you are all good.

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Saturday, June 10, 2023

Wednesday, June 07, 2023

A quick glimpse of one life

 (shared by a friend at the dinner table)

Recently I met this Uber driver from Pakistan.
He was in Dubai for 2 years driving a cab.
Then in Jeddah for 14 years.
His Kafeel was charging him 300 Riyals a month.
Then 1300 a month.
He charged him when he went home for vacation.
He went to Azerbaijan for two years.
Went to Brazil and walked for six months to Mexico, beaten, robbed, and starved.
It took him
8 years to get a green card.
And he was grateful.
He was crying, and all I could do was hug him.

Monday, June 05, 2023