A common literary mistake

 Most people read Daag Dahelvi shyr wrong as:

Actual wordings are:

Aesa confidence chahiye

 

Kintsugi

 

Life!

 

حاصل زندگی حسرت کے سوا کچھ بھی نہی 

یہ کیا نہیںُ وہ ہوا نہیں یہ ملا نہیں وہ رہا نہیں

Mirza Ghalib ka ghar

 

Money vs Relationships

One lesson I learned—and advised children in the family to understand—is that sooner or later in life, they will be presented with situations where they must choose between salvaging a relationship or walking away with (some) money. It sounds strange, but it is true.

It may be a friendship, marriage, or another relationship.

Alas! I have seen people fight for money at the expense of relationships. Siblings not talking to each other for decades, getting divorced, blocking friends - It's all not worth it. Even if you have to sustain some loss, take it. 

It is absolutely not worth going to the extreme stage on the pretext that he said this, she said this, He did this, she did this.

Even if you have to give up on your rightful stand, do so. Let things go. Move on.

Later, as years go by, you will learn that money vanishes, good jobs end, cars get depreciated, and houses get sold - but heartache and memories stay.

*

Urdu (and Luckhnow)

 

On Pakistan

I landed at NY JFK airport on April 13. That day, I was full of Pakistaniat. As I get boiled in the melting pot of humanity in the USA, it still sometimes hurts me to see my previous homeland not doing well.

 

 

Paranoid

 As I work at a quarternary medical center, we get the sickest of sickest patients transferred from outside hospitals. A wrong clinical judgment in that split of a second can kill a patient. I have a very close friend who is a very senior physician and a mentor for me. He reviews cases of bad or unexpected outcomes. The following conversation occurred two days ago.

(phone rang)

"What did I do wrong this time?"

"Nothing! I called to check on your shenanigans outside of work."

"I am now getting paranoid whenever you call."

"I am glad. We need to be paranoid. We deal with human lives. It is a prerequisite. Have a good day."

(Call ended)

On Eid

‏عیدگاہِ ما غریباں کوئے تو

‏ایں بہ ساعت عید، دیدن روئے تو

Your street is Eid-gaah for us poors 

The glimpse of your face is the moment of Eid 

 - Amir Khusrau

عیدگاه ما غریبا‌ں کوئے تو

ایں بہ ساعت عید، دیدن روئے تو 

کعبۂ من، قبلۂ من روئے تو

سجدہ گاہ عاشقاں ابروئے تو 

صد ہزارا‌ٓں عید قربانت کنم 

اے ہلالِ ما، خم ابروئے تو 

دست بکشا جانب زنبیل ما 

آفریں بر ہمت بازوئے تو 

یا نظام الدین محبوبِ خدا 

جملہ محبوبان غلام روئے تو

(کلام حضرت امیر خسرو)

On Journey (of life)

 

How to play the Game of Life

Cricket is the game of life. Cricket teaches you how to play the game of life. In this regard, my most profound teaching came from legendary Clive Lloyd, who won two first consecutive world cups for the West Indies and groomed many giants of Cricket, including Andy Roberts, Micheal Holding, Malcolm Marshall, and bigger-than-life Sir Alexander Vivian (the King) Richard. He once described his attitude toward playing Cricket in the following words (not exact words, though).

"Once we make the strategy for the match against a particular team, I usually stay in the dressing room, either taking a nap or doing other things. When it's my turn to bat, I walk into the field. First, I look at the weather and the wind to know how the ball may swing. Then, I look at the scoreboard. Knowing this, I play each ball to its merit. This attitude never deceived me."

Approaching every event, issue, action, and problem in life to its merit keeps a person going. It's not worth worrying too much about success or failure.

Be awaz laathi

 Kehte hain khuda ki lathi be awaz hai - magar jab us ki samjh aati hai to insaan itni zor se bilbilata hai ke woh laathi be awaz nahi rehti.

* Somebody cheated me with 35 K US$ almost 15 years ago. I moved on as I had no other choice. Recently, I learned that the person lost 70K in the same business for which I was cheated. The business was flooded in extreme rain, and the whole inventory was lost. As Desis do, no flood insurance was purchased. I was sent an apology as a makafate amal. I stayed quiet. Such an apology means nothing anymore.

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