Jub Rahim Bhai - Sameena Bhabhi ke peeche churi (knife) le ker bhage to Sameena bhabhi ne 911 call ker di. Rahim Bhai aik raat jail main rahe. Uske baat abbu 'bail' kerwa ke hamare ghar le aaye magar poore khandan main Rahim bhai pe bari thu thu hui. Abbu ne bhi khub khari khari sunayi. Main wahiN betha sochta raha ke Rahim bhai jese miskeen shaks ne churi kese utha li?
Rahim bhai visa pe canada aaye the - Canada main rukne ke liye Sameena bhabhi se shadi ker li. Sameena bhabhi ne is baat ka khoob 'advantage' liye. Shadi ko 22 baras guzar gaye - 2 bachhe college paunch gaye magar Sameena bhabhi ka har dusre din ye taana khatam nahi huwa ke "Aaj canada main meri wajah se bethe ho werna karachi main jutiaN ragar rahe hote"
22 baras ka gubaar - lawa bun ker jo aik din nikla to sab kuch saath baha ke le giya. Rahim bhai ab Brampton main kahin akele rehte hain - aur har sham logon ko emails forward ker ke waqt katte hain.
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hmmmm..I donno who to be sad for..sameena bhabi jisko koi aur larka mila nai ya rahim bhai who let things get to him and is now alone.
Many times in life - its a huge 'grey zone'. No one id wrong or right. Its just people live and think on different axes.
Taali dono hathon say bajti hay. Wife was abusing her ihsaan (if it was its thawab is lost when you mention it one time and repeating it makes it enter the category of Zulm, oppression. After all he is her husband.)
Shaoher ko biwee per hath kisi halat main bhi nahin uthana chahiyay yeh zulm hay except if she is evidently going toward fahsh things, like openly courting other men etc. (The Qur'anic Aya of allowing that)
Whatever happened the people who have suffered more are the children you did not mention.
Kids are now in college so very much auto-pilot in their life/dorm/college and visit father frequently (as far as I know)
In most of your posts I have noticed that whenever you write about problems between couples you seem to put the blame always on women
I agree with anonymous about your style of expression but it’s not your fault we come from a male dominated society and it’s pretty common. I always wonder when things go wrong blame is easy to shift on one party honestly speaking the only thing women wants is to be heard and cared for and that’s what Samina bhabi desired too while Rahim bhai instead of providing real trust and care just probably said it or stayed quite ….it needs to be said and expressed. The only issue for both parties is acceptance once we narrate the story personal biases or different affects make it look different due to our perspective. let me ask what Rahim bhai’s approach was towards life was the money top priority, supporting family back home, what was his reaction to adjustment when his wife told him how things happen here, hasn’t he married to be in North America in the first place, what made Samina bhabi so insecure? And I disagree with you that she can’t find a larka …..u know blue passport can get u a line of men.
when people look for women as potential spouses they want, figure, education, money, beauty, education, resourceful family in simple words ALL while for men what’s the criteria being male having x and y chromosome …..not their ability to perform …if they have any reproductive concerns they kept hidden while for women they go to their educational institutions and turn every stone to find about them, … larka tu g aankh utha ker nahi daykhta ….now he might be shy or lacking self confidence who knows and once they are here even being with wife they with their “neechi nazer” know about the women in surrounds and stare their boobs as fearlessly that it’s disgusting…..i never saw a woman staring at men like this.
Please before putting your words into opinion make sure u have ground reality of both sides.
Both - Annonymous...Appreciate your comments.
Anonymous 1 - I just had a post on Alam Khan/Amina where marriage failed due to boy...(post of June 14, 2009). But being a man, yes I may be biasedly seening their perspective better.
Annonymous 2 - I doubt, you wrote anything wronng. Certainly, there are always 2 sides of a coin. I am sure Rahim Bhai has his own issues. Most failed Marriages are due to incompatibility of spouses. Some get through it with compromise and others don't. Few marriages just stay there as unhappy and bad marriages due to various reasons.
I think, Rahim Bhai failed to provide enough time/support and eventually lack of 'sense of security' to Sameena Bhabhi. In return she reacted negatively with nagging which made relationship spirally went down.
I doubt, anyone get married knowing they will be divorced in future. Sometime people just grow on different axes.
(My major objective of this post to underline the point that - one given event actually carries years of frustration in background
Zamana parvarish kerta hai barsoN)
Wow really impressed with both annoymouses ……Masoomyat kay raheem bhai nay choori paker li….Aap nay larkay wala jumla kyoon nikaal dya…..janaab aap jo Alam Khan/Amina ki baat ker rahay hain ous post may bhi aap kay ba-qool amina nay aap ko gher ka bhaidy banya aur approach kya anda-ze-bayaan wahan bhi khassa biased hay….eitaraaf kay mushkil hi hoa kerta hay. Baat istamal ki hay aur mutlub ki samina bhabi rahim bhai kay durwazay per nahi gayeen hoon gi almyya ye hay kay hum aissay wakyaat say sabaq nahi seekhtay shadyaan bay joor lug rahi hooty hain phir bhi kehtay hain Allah behter karay ga….compromise….. kerta kon hay….aap kay haan ouraat ka concept dayvi ka hay kay sub sehe jayey verna wo burry...
Maher
Maher ji,
If my style offend you, I am sorry for that but why you think, it is always men fault? Things can get wacky due to any partner, irrespective of man or woman...
Ideally. most love or self arrange marriages should work but unfortunately their failure rate is as high as arranged marriages by parents.
I think, actual character of people comes out when they have to live with someone 24/7. Respect, trust, spaces and communication slowly take downward slide manytimes even before partners know.
(BTW - you have pretty good urdu vocabulary. I recently found this software, try it...
http://www.google.com/transliterate/indic/Urdu
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