(Listened at one self-help lecture)
"As marriage gets old, sex becomes very secondary. Kids, careers, chores, bills, in-laws, house, kitchen, etc.! Sex takes the last spot. This sense that a spouse's physical body is there is enough to satisfy libido! A dangerous situation arises when your spouse makes a move to have intimate moments, but you feel run down. Rejecting their sexual advance right out creates negative feedback, trauma to ego, and a sense of rejection. And over time, marriage becomes asexual. About 20% or more marriages of healthy people in the USA have become asexual. So what to do if your spouse wants sex but you don't? Best to stay with them, hug and hold hands. Be honest and share your reason not to have intimacy. Nothing is more dangerous than walking away or going to the other edge of the bed............Trust me, they know you don't have a headache."
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