Reflection on the Psychology of C***old Fantasy

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It has been a long time since I stopped hanging out with friends at bars for happy hours. Last weekend, I was for a 'boys night out'. As Saadat Hasan Manto said:

Our conversation moved to sexual kinks, adventures, and fantasies. We were all shocked when one of the friends acknowledged his cuckold fantasy. He is a huge 6'2 guy with heavy muscles, and we have heard of a long list of girls having a crush on him. That's how he explained:

I’ve spent a long time trying to understand why the cuckold dynamic pulls at me the way it does, and what it’s actually trying to resolve inside me. It’s easy for people to write it off as humiliation or insecurity, but that’s surface-level thinking. The reality is more layered, more personal, and honestly, more revealing than anyone wants to admit.

For me, the core of it isn’t about another man at all.

It’s about confronting the parts of myself I don’t show openly — desire, vulnerability, jealousy, ego, devotion, fear, trust — all in one place. Strangely, the fantasy becomes a mirror. It reflects back things I’ve pushed down, ignored, or never had the space to acknowledge. Part of me wants to feel undone a little, like I’m peeling away the performance of masculinity I’ve worn for years. Another part wants to test myself, to stand in the middle of emotions most people won’t even let themselves name. The jealousy, the surrender, the intensity of wanting someone so much that I’m willing to feel uncomfortable — that says more about me than the fantasy itself.

And there’s the truth nobody talks about: It makes me confront my values. Not in a way that diminishes me, but in a way that forces me to separate worth from control. It pushes me to ask:

Do I love for possession or for connection?
Is my desire rooted in ego or in vulnerability?
Can I handle seeing my partner fully chosen by someone else, even if just in my mind?
What happens to me emotionally when I’m no longer the center?

There’s a strange kind of honesty in facing those questions. A peculiar kind of freedom, too. And deep down, I think the fantasy attempts to resolve one central tension inside me: I want to love without holding on so tightly that I crush the thing I’m trying to keep. It’s not about watching. It’s about facing who I am when I’m stripped of control, ego, and assumption. That’s the part that hits hardest. That’s the part the fetish is trying to reach. And maybe… resolve.

Sex and Love making

"It was a good sex." - I quipped

Us ne bister pe lete lete cigerette sulgaya, aur kash laga ker boli:

 -  Jise tum sex kehte ho, main 'love making' kehti hun !!

Beauties and the Beasts

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Islamic Sexology

(I always believed that out of all organized religions Islam is the most liberal in terms of sexual permissibility. Following is a serious discussion on sexual pluralism, diversity, evolution and different thoughts in Islam. The article itself has links to other related articles.)


"Numerous hadith suggest that new Muslims often asked the prophet what their conversions would mean for their sex lives. Muhammad responded with lectures on, among other things, consent, foreplay, and the value of maintaining compassion and playfulness in bed. A man, he stresses in at least one tradition, ought to make sure his female partner is satisfied before himself. That’s just part of being a good Muslim. He also held forth to his followers on things such as the merits of the withdrawal method, and even declares good sex sadaqa, an act of holy merit.................

.........From medieval to modern times, Islamic scholars have felt obligated to dissect, debate and rule on the fine details of every single sexual act or dynamic to figure out how god and his prophet would have dealt with it. And not just obscure scholars. The founders of every madhhab, or major Islamic jurisprudential school of thought, working in the 9th and 10th centuries and their successors explored the fine details of sex and sexuality in depth in their works. The prominent 15th-century Egyptian religious scholar Al-Suyuti wrote at least 23 tomes on sex and sexuality. ‘Matter-of-fact, explicit descriptions of, and recommendations on, sexual techniques are always included in [Islamic] law and ethics manuals’ to this day, says Winter.."

Full article link: https://aeon.co/essays/islam-has-a-long-tradition-of-explicit-sexual-discussion?utm_source=Aeon+Newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=AD_HTLGI_HAY_2020

On "Art of Sex"

"Yes, Sir! Sex is an Art. If a woman knows, she can bring an animal out of any man, anytime. - we all know that. But, if a man knows where to push buttons! He can bring slut out of any woman, anywhere, anytime! No wonder I often loved to fuck in public places, more than in a room of a luscious 5-star hotel".

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Why I don't sleep with married women!

I was having an happy hour with folks at work. One colleague made an interesting comment when talk turned to sex!

"I don't seduce, flirt or sleep with married women. I've been cheated on before and it f**king sucks. I don't want to put another human being through that."

Sex and Marriage

If sex is good, marriage is 10% good. If sex is bad 90% of marriage is ruined.

(Read somewhere)

Sexual journey - Men & Women

I didn't agree but for sure pondered when I read this:

"Men's sexual journey starts with wandering eyes and polygamous nature but as they grow old they learn that only monogamous relationship works. Thats their comedy of error. Women's puberty sets in with monogamous mindset but as she grow more in life, she learns the pleasure of polygamous relationships. That's her tragedy of error"

Crowd Psychology - Group Sex

(The following post may carry offensive content, though I tried not to be graphic)

What shocked me most was the presence of Fang in that house!

Crowd psychology is one of the most vital phenomena in any human society. Once a crowd starts walking on a single thinking path, it creates such a powerful energy that it can move mountains. This is the same crowd psychology that brings revolutions. It is like a Vaccum, which sucks in people's minds, and they lose their power to have objective thinking. It is a most extreme and collective form of conscious hypnotism. A similar thing rolls out from stereotyping to most brutal ethnic genocides!...

One of our fellow residents was getting married to a fellow resident girl. A Bachelor party was planned for guys at a nude bar, and girls gathered at one of the girl's houses. Guys joined girls after their party. They all were drunk, and one person's idea of Tom Cruise's 'eyes wide shut mask' led to group sex thingy. These were wild people, but when I saw Fang taking the black fold off her eyes as she received a cell phone call from her mother, I was shocked to find her there - rising from an act of sin. Fang was Chinese and was one of the most pretty, graceful, reserved, and, I thought, a very conservative breed. I guess under crowd psychology, she was carried away in the storm of sex, sin, and alcohol.

Keeping senses sane in the middle of the madding crowd is one of the hardest things, and may Almighty protect all of us from it!

P.S. The above was not a pleasurable memory but very disgusting. I do not find the idea of group sex appealing anymore.

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