I recieved this email on my previous post "Kids"
Dear Zindagi ki diary bhai,
I am married for 3 years and we have difficult marriage. We are fighting all the time. We are in Marriage counseling - which may even fail. I am already 34 years old. I don't want to bring a soul in this world not knowing our own relationship.
This is another reason people don't get more or even one kid.
XXXXX
4 comments:
i think the person is perfectly right.if your marital life is in trouble,dont bother getting added responsibilty.
I think divorce is hardest on the kids....its hard for the indiviual too...it's one less guilt on your head if you don't have kids going through the pain of your divorce.
Prayers and well-wishes for the writer of the letter. May Allah give you strength and perseverance for whatever is the outcome of your marriage. Ameen.
And let me tell you why we never got second kid. My wife had very complicated pregnancy.She survived. I don't want her to go through same nightmare again putting her life at risk. Beside possible handicap kids and bad relationship, sometime strong bond also prevent you from having kids.Strange!!
I have a son with "special needs " and a healthy normal daughter mashallah .
The thought of having a third child scares the hell out of me.what if?? 'i get another child with disabilities.
At the same time the thought that my daughter will never have any normal brother-sister relationship ,and that all the burden of a 'handicapped brother' will be on her shoulders ,when we will not be with them anymore,"KILLS ME"
it's complicated'''''
Post a Comment