Kids

As my cousin Aga (here, here) was visiting me - we argued about many things in life. (He is one smart ass).

One other thing we debated is about how many kids a married couple should have? I always think that couples should have 4 kids or at least 3 kids for 2 simple reasons. Firstly, they are fun. Secondly, when you get old and die - they have their own strong social support of brothers and sisters.

The only flip side of having more kids is - what if you get a handicap child - as it is too draining - physically as well as emotionally (Amin Bhai, Sameer Ali uncle).

I found this debate interesting...


P.S: It is said that Kids of younger parents are more misbehaved.

Giving to Homeless

As we came out of a desi restaurant, we were confronted by a homeless person. I usually have spare change on side for this purpose. My cousin is very opposed in giving money to homeless people standing at roadside as they usually go and spend everything on beer and drugs. I have other view. I have 3 reasons to give 'change' to them.

1. I want my kids to learn the value of giving without going in too much of logic.

2. If I am blessed excessively - more than I deserve - what right I have to rationalize, stereotype or make assumptions before giving to someone. I will give with good intention (niyyat). Its not my job to justify his act of using money.

3. If he will not find money soon to get his beer he will 'mug' someone in desparation. My 2 quarters may keep evil at least at non-violent level.

Make sense?

Zindagi class leti hai

This video clip is perfect with theme of this blog.

Solace

Someone not only took my money but on top of me threatened me if I ask again!! I was angry. I opened Quran and page was "Surah Al 'Adiyât". Read it. It prevailed peace inside me and I found my way to deal with it.

100:8 - And violent is he in his love of wealth.
100:9 - Does he not know,- when that which is in the graves is scattered.
100:10 - And that which is (locked) in (their) breasts is made manifest-
100:11 - That their Lord had been Well-acquainted with them, (even to) that Day.?

I left my 'hisab' on All-mighty....

Name and luck

Mera khayal hai ye durust hai ke aadmi ki zindagi pe uske naam ka bara gehra asar hota hai.

It happened to me as I start using last name rather than my father's name. My first cousin comletely get cured of his chronic sickness as he changed his first name. Some womens' life get screwed with new married name and few women get new life..In many cultures, great care and importance is given in naming kids.

If your life is stuck or under bad stars or going with bad luck for long time or if you are just accident prone - try new nick, start using your middle name or last name more - try it - it may help.

I don't know how to explain it. It may be completely anecdotal or just my bias but I have seen it working. Any thoughts?

A quote

"Badnaseeb hai woh shaks jise dost na mile, aur us se bhi ziyada badnaseeb hai woh shaks jo achhe doston ko kho de" !

- Hazrat Ali

Geebat

Baat bohat purani hai magar barsoN baad yun lag rahi hai jese kul hi ki baat ho.

Yun to main jawani main kafi daheriya (atheist) tha magar aik din Jumma parhne 'local' masjid main chalaa gaya. Maulvi sahab ne "Geebat" ke mozun pe bara dhuwan daar khutba diya. Kuch waqiye sach the aur kuch banawti. Magar Maulvi sahab ki aik baat dimag main regh gai ke: "Jub koi kisi ki geebat kerta hai to poora arsh jalal main aa jata hai. Aur foran geebat kerne wale ki saza tajweez ho jaati hai". Mujeh bari hasi aai thi.

Lekin umer ke is hisse main aa ker lagta hai shayed maulvi sahab ne kuch aesa galat bhi nahi kaha tha. Koi to wajah hai ke Quran ne geebat ko murdar khane ke barabar tajweez kiya hai.

Grandparents

Mera khayal hai jis ghar main Dada Dadi ya Nana Nani bachhoN ke saath rehte hain unki nafsiyati sehat sirf waldain ke saath rehne wale bachhoN se behtar hoti hai.

(I think kids who live with grand parents have better psychological health than who just live with their parents)

Habib Jalib's Mainay Uss Say Yeh Kaha

Habib Jalib's famous poem sung so great by UK based band "Laal"

You can hear same poem in Jalib's own voice here

My other post on Habib Jalib here

On dead loved ones

Kiya ye sach hoga ke jo log hum se muhabbat kerte hain woh maut ke baad bhi hamare liye fiqar mand rehte hain.