Kids-5

We had a few posts on having 'how many kids?' a few days ago (November 28 - December 4 posts). Here is one comment recently posted. I think it's worth sharing.

"Somehow, I bumped into your blog while searching something on Google. I read these posts on kids. I am not sure how my situation goes here but let me share. I have been married for 4 years, and I have had so far 3 miscarriages. All this time, I was blaming myself. I was very depressed. My marriage was breaking down. On my last miscarriage, we requested pathology. Pathology came back as a chromosome 17 defect. I think it was a blessing from the lord in disguise for us as well as for the soul we wanted to bring into our life. Life is not perfect, but I am happy now, and we know to get genetic testing even before trying. It's hard but a kind of guidance. If the fault lies in our genes, we will not have kids. May Jesus bless all of us on this Christmas".

 Thanks Dian.

Story of Adam and Eve.

Mard aurat se kuch aur nahi chahta siwaye charasaazi-o-gumgusaari ke, magar aurat naseh bun ker bohat kuch barbad ker deti hai.

Doctor Zhivago

Uncle Saugoree's post "Old story" reminded me of one of the best novel I ever read and get inspired in my life - Doctor Zhivago. I am posting relevant part from his post.

"To tell you the truth I was watching one old movie as usual and thought of it very different than when I first saw it, "Dr. Zhivago".One good thing for watching such oldies is that you dont have to watch it all can interrupt wherever and whenever you want to. Thus while watching I was carried into my own world of imagination.

As a Muslim why do I support the idea of a man, no matter who he is, for having married one woman and carrying on with another one so passionately that ultimately losing the life (You will recall at Omar Sharief's excellent portrayal of the acute coronary syndrome on seeing Laura). He obviously loved Laura more than he loved his wife, mother of at least two of his children. As a man of course you could love two women at the same time and equally which is human. I guess you could say the same for a woman too but women according some sayings of sages are "monogamous" by nature (Are they?)

Anyway, the villainous Komerov was right in saying about her, "a slut", and yet Laura was so devoted to Yuri (Dr. Zhivago).Well, it is such a moving story and catching and absorbing on the screen performed so well through MGM, and you cant help but moved by it and end up in sympathy with both Laura and Yuri and of course Tonya. It reminded me of Chacha Ghalib who while married loved another woman".

Sexual journey - Men & Women

I didn't agree but for sure pondered when I read this:

"Men's sexual journey starts with wandering eyes and polygamous nature but as they grow old they learn that only monogamous relationship works. Thats their comedy of error. Women's puberty sets in with monogamous mindset but as she grow more in life, she learns the pleasure of polygamous relationships. That's her tragedy of error"

On patronizing community

I had interesting talk with a colleauge. He is applying green card for his mother in Pakistan. I advise him to hire a 'gora' lawyer. He told me he is hiring a fresh Pakistani-American graduate who has just started his practice (ABCD bachha). I was little shocked. I asked: "Why?"

He replied: "If we will not patronize our own kids and graduates who else will?'

I think - it make sense.

Sadqa

Agar bachpun main hame koi chot lug jaati to dadi kehtiN: "Chalo achha huwa, bari musibat ka saqda huwa".

Kiya ye sach hoga ke zindagi main darasl koi chota nuqsan is baat ka istaa'ra hota hai ke hamara koi bara nuqsan hone wala tha magar qudrat ne hamari bachat ker di!

Land of opportunity

Rajan Bhai is one heck of a funny person. He came to this country in mid 70s from a small village of Gujrat, India. He worked hard and turned into a mutli-millionare businessman. (He is known in friend circle as 'crorepati') I like him as his views are always unique and I think he is a god-gifted smart man. He run his business in his own desi style. His one son finished MBA from an Ivy leayge school and joined him in business and is very frustrated with (per his say) unorganised way of running business. Here is a conversation between him (RB) and his son (S):

S: : "Daddy! can we sit down and jot precisely how much our all businesses worth?"

RB: "Tum janna chahte ho ke main ne ab tuk kiya kamaya"

S: "Kind of yes"

RB: "Beta! Jo kuch bhi hamare paas hai bus us main se aik shirt aur patloon minus ker do. Baqi jo kuch hai - tumhari eduation mila ke - woh sab kuch kamaya hi kamaya hai"


Rajan Bhai landed in this country with just one shirt and a pant. No wonder, people say this is a land of opportunity.

Pakistani Larki

I have short hair with blonde highlights. My accent is pure american. I wear Jeans and T shirts. I hang out with "gora bachhas". Most of my collection is of english songs. I watch american football. Yes I do puff cigrettes and get drunk with beers in dorm parties.

Magar kubhi kubhi mera bhi dil kerta hai ke kisi desi dhabe pe khare ho kar pani puri khauN. Eid pe haatoN pe Mehndi lagauN aur bhare bhare duppatte wala shalwar kameez pahenuN. Ab bhi jub abbu 'youtube' pe Mehdi hasan sunte hain to mere pauN computer ke paas jum jaate hain aur mere dil ki dharkanaiN tez ho jaati hain. Main ne Lahore chora to saat (seven) baras ki thi magar ab bhi dil kerta hai ke ur (fly) ke Rabia khala ke aangan main paunch jaun aur aankh macholi khelun....

Ooper se hum ABCD lurkian kitni hi angrez nazar aa'ain magar hamare andar ki Pakistani lurki kubhi nahi marti!!

Thank you Masud

I mentioned on this blog about my broken friendship with Masud (here). This weekend I really missed him a lot. Somebody asked me to name a person whom I will be thankful ever in my life. I had few names and one was Masud.

In final year of my medical school - I completely lost touch with my education. I was having too much fun outside college, in hostel and in college's cafeteria. I lost track of all lectures, clinical rotations and practicals. I didn't touch any text book for months. A month before final exam I realized my stupidity after a surgeon degraded me during my seldom showup at one clinical rotation (I failed to read a simple CXR). I asked Masud - what should I do? Masud made a crash course of all subjects and suggested small booklets/articles instead of text books. He was my instant encyclopedia. I just didn't clear all subjects but secured upper high first division.

I want to thank you my friend Masud - where ever you are and if you ever read my blog.

Kids-4

Another important dimension added to previous posts on discussion of "number of kids to have" from a reader.

I have a son with "special needs " and a healthy normal daughter mashallah .The thought of having a third child scares the hell out of me.what if ?? I get another child with disabilities. At the same time the thought that my daughter will never have any normal brother-sister relationship, and that all the burden of a 'handicapped brother' will be on her shoulders, when we will not be with them anymore,"KILLS ME". It's "complicated''.

Kids-3

Somebody left comment regarding my previous posts on kids. I think this comment itself deserve a post.

And let me tell you why we never got second kid. My wife had very complicated pregnancy. She survived. I don't want her to go through same nightmare again putting her life at risk. Beside possible handicap kids and bad relationship, sometime strong bond also prevent you from having kids. Strange!!

Kids-2

I recieved this email on my previous post "Kids"

Dear Zindagi ki diary bhai,

I am married for 3 years and we have difficult marriage. We are fighting all the time. We are in Marriage counseling - which may even fail. I am already 34 years old. I don't want to bring a soul in this world not knowing our own relationship.

This is another reason people don't get more or even one kid.

XXXXX