Woman

I am not sure if this is really from Osho (Bhagwan Rajneesh) as I never read or follow much on him (pardon my ignorance). But I liked this quote on internet

On 'Final Good Bye'

Recently I had a friend who let me go - and that's ok - eventually, we all moved out in our respective trains from this central station. I was sad for a few days. It reminded me of dialogue from the movie 'Life of Pi" (I don't think this line was in the actual novel).

"I wept like a child, not because I was overwhelmed at having survived, although I was. I was weeping because Richard Parker left me so... unceremoniously. It broke my heart.You know, my father was right. Richard Parker never saw me as his friend. After all we'd been through, he didn't even look back. But I have to believe that there was more in his eyes than my own reflection staring back at me. I know I felt it - even if I can't prove it. I just wish...            

You know, I've left so much behind. My family, the zoo, Anandi, India - I suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go. But what always hurts the most is not taking the moment to say goodbye.......... And I know he was a tiger, but I wish I'd said: 'It's over. We've survived. Thank you for saving my life. I love you, Richard Parker. You will always be with me. May God be with you."


Note:  It's a beautiful mystical novel of a fight of oneself with his or her own inner ego. Unfortunately, the movie, though keeps you occupied and done very well - failed to convey the actual theme of the novel.

Previous posts on the movie and the novel here and here

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React or Respond

Internet pe phir kisi ne ye baat forward ki to peechle janam ki aik baat yaad aa gai.

Jab hum college main naye naye gaye to bare jazbati hote the. 1984 ka zamana tha jab General Zia ki hukumat ne students pe haat daalna shuru kiya. Hum us ke khilaf roz pathrao kerne, jaloos nikalne aur police ki lathi, aansoo gas khane - college ki saath saRak pe nikal jaate. Tab hamare aik teacher hume roz rokte aur kehte: "Bure halat React kerne se nahi, soch samjh ke Respond kerne se theek hote hain". 

Aadhi umar guzrne pe samjh aaya, waqiyaat pe hamara koi akhtiyar nahi, woh hote rehte hain - hum ya to react ker ke bigaR lain - ya soch samjh ke respond ker ke - zindagi main aage barhte chalye jaayaiN.

Qabile parastish

"Qabile Taarif hai woh shaks jo jalte makan se kisi bachhe ko bacha laaye, magar qabile parastish hai woh shaks jo jalte makan se na sirf bachhe ko bacha laaye bulke us ke khilonoN ko bhi bacha laaye"  
~ (Jan Novakoff)

Tourist

A tourist visited a Sufi.

He was astonished to see that the Sufi's home was a simple room.
The only furniture was a mat and a kerosene lamp.

Tourist :"Sufi, where's your furniture?"
Sufi : "Where is yours?"
Tourist : "Mine? But I'm only a visitor here."
Sufi : "So am I !!"

Tohfe

"Kiya ye sach hoga ke - jab doston ke tohfe khona shuru ho jaain to dostian bhi toot jaati hain"

Sufism and Homosexuality- On submission

Sufism has always been alleged either subtly and at few places loudly with practice of homosexuality. Tons of articles have been written on it and writing anything further here would be a cure of insomnia. Personally, I never found any evidence throughout history which attest, condone or provides any evidence of encouragement of this practice in any sect of sufism. I believe whole confusion arise from the notion in literature of sufism in which sufi praises, call or beg his hadi or mursheed as a male and label himself as his bride - like Maulana Rumi for his master Shams Tabrizi or when Amir Khusrow says: Mohay suhagan kini, rey mosey naina milaayke ( You've made me your bride, by just a glance). (see here)

After above said, I had an interesting conversation with one friend on psychology of submission between man and woman, and use of this psych in sufi practice. By nature Man carries a huge inflated Ego and in his own brain he (likes to) see himself as a God who can provide, nurture and protect against any afat. And woman by nature seeks a perfect man whom she can submit to seek all these and feels complete. As Bashir Badar said beautifully:

 Mujeh apni chadar se yun dhaanp lo, 
Zameen aa'sman kuch dikhaii na dey

I was told above explanation does not hold any water in modern time. I disagree. Man and woman are creatures born with given psychology. And why man seeks woman is another topic.

On side note, submission or to pretend submission is an art and may become a weapon of manipulation, through which woman since time of eve is fucking man's mind!

Zakat (Jurmana-2)

Main ne aik blogpost (click Jurmana) pe Naeem sahab ka zikar kiya tha. Unki 2 aur batain mujeh yaad aati hain. Ye woh umar thi, jab aadmi dusroN se bewaqoofana sawal pooch leta hai, aur bolne se pehle sochta nahi. Main ne un se poocha:

"To phir aap kitne muslman hain?"

Unhon ne jawab diya: "Qalma parh ker muslman ho gaya magar namaz nahi parhta, roze nahi raktha. Haj ab tak nahi kiya - magar haan zakat zaroor hisab se de deta hun?"

"woh kiun?"

"Woh is liye, ke main ne zindagi main dekha hai ke aik insan, dusre insaan ko sab kuch muaaf ker deta hai, magar ziyada ter log aik dusre ko paise muaaf nahi kerte - insaan lalchi aur harees jo thera. Rab ne insaan ko apni surat banaya hai, to sochta hun namaz roze, haj se to bachat ho jaaye gi magar zakat dusre insaano ka haq hai, woh mujhe nahi choRain ge - aur is muamle main na rab choRe ga. Bus khud ki bachat ke liye ye technical game khelta hun"

Main is mantiq pe sir khujata reh gaya.
  
Ye duniya ajeeb ajeeb hoshruba insanon se bhari hai !!!

Jiyo

(Found interesting poster on internet)

A quote

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.  ~ Aristotle

Small things matter

Q: Daddy ! why it is necessary to shut off cell phones in theater?
A: Because such small things matter in life.

Minions

(On central theme of movie minions)

Insaan ne apne irtaqa' ke agaz se hi apne khuda ki talash ki hai.

Aur khud hi apne har purane maa'bood ko sangsaar ker ke
aik naye maa'bood ko tarasha hai.

Kabhi janwar ki to kabhi pathar ki pooja ki hai. 
Kabhi suraj ke aage jhuka hai to kabhi ilhaad ke gaar main jiya hai. 

Jang-o-jadal ka shikar hua hai
aur kabhi bhoot pareet ko jaancha hai

Kabhi do khudaoN ke beech pees ker dui ki bu se bezaar hua hai. 
to kabhi Yagana-o-yakta ka janjaal saha hai.

Us ne wahid se wahdat ka safar kaata hai. 

Isi chakkar main shaitani quwwatoN ka aala'-e-kaar bana hai. 

Aik khuda ke sir pe taj pehna ke, 
usi taj ki talash main sayyaroN se aage ke jahan ka mutlashi huwa hai

Insaan ne ye safar  sirf aik dusre ka haat tham ke kaata hai
Insaaniat ka ye safar hi shayed mantaqi ut-tayyar ki kahani hai

 (Movie trailer here)

Listen audio of this post below

 

On 'Hurting'

"Muhabbat ki sab se ahsan surat kiya hoti hai?"
"Jab ye khayal rahe ke mujh se kisi ko koi takleef na paunche"

Coffee Cup and Professor

A group of friends visited their old university professor. Conversation soon turned to complaints about 'STRESS' & 'TENSION' in Life. Professor offered them Coffee & returned from kitchen with Coffee in different kinds of cups !!! (Glass Cups, Crystal Cups, Shining Ones, Some Plain Looking, Some Ordinary & Some Expensive Ones)

... When all of them had a Cup in Hand, the professor said:- "If you noticed- all the Nice Looking & Expensive Cups are taken up, leaving behind the ordinary ones! Every one of you wanted the Best CUPS, that is the source of your STRESS & TENSION !! What you really wanted was "Coffee", not the "Cup"! But you still went for the Best Cup. If Life is Coffee ; Then Jobs, Money, Status & Love etc. are the Cups!!! They are just TOOLS to hold and contain Life.

 Please Don't Let the CUPS Drive you !! Enjoy the COFFEE!!!

Blessing

"You look very happy today?"
"Somebody said something amazing to me"
"?"
"You are a blessing. This one simple sentence means a lot to me."

"Mum"

In response to my previous post 'Patricia' (here), Uncle Saugoree posted following bio-portrait

" When in UK many years ago I was working in a 'peripheral' hospital "House physicians/surgeons including senior and 'registrars' were mostly "foreigners' except one Englishman. We were all housed in residential quarters with attached kitchen and some food stuff was supplied by the hospital if someone would not like to eat in the hospital doctors dining room. We were served by maids who would sometime also cook for us Indeed some ladies had learned desi "curry" cooking from female Indian doctors (and yes we could get poories). These maids 'served' doctors very well. One of them was elderly but loved us all and sometimes in bad weather someone from us would drive her home when she finished working. Because of her 'devotion' and love we called her "mum" except one Indian doctor who always called her "Mrs. Thrower' (That was her name) and we all would object to his behavior. Just one example of her "motherly attitude" and why we called her "Mum": One evening one of us complained about the poor quality of fruits being served supplied by the hospital. Next day we got good quality fresh fruits on our table. Yes, you guessed it right. Mum bought from her own pocket from the market so that we do not complain any more."

You can read at his blog http://saugoree.blogspot.com/2015/07/mum.html

Mukammal Aurat

"Tum saat samandar paar ker ke sirf mujh se milne kiun aaye ho. Kiya mujh se muhabbat kerte ho?"

"Muhabbat to nahi kerta magar haan - Is liye ke main dekhna chahta tha mukammal aurat (complete woman) kesi hoti hai?"

"Ye mukammal aurat kiya hoti hai?"

"Sarapa-wajood-e-Zan insaan ki zindagi ko rangoN se bhar deti hai. Woh jo Faiz ne kha ke

Champaai rang kabhi, raahat-e-deedaar ka rang 
Surmayi rang ke hai sa’at-e-bezaar ka rang 
Zard patton ka, khas-o-khaar ka rang 
Surkh phoolon ka, dehekte huwe gulzaar ka rang 
Zehar ka rang, lahu rang, shab-e-taar ka rang

"Phir?"

"Phir ye ke  jab woh teen dusri aurton ke saath mehfil main bethti hai, to aap ka jee chahta hai aap sirf usey dekhain. Us ki muskurahat sab se munfarid hoti hai - jis main garmi bhi hai, harkat bhi, tawanii bhi - Us ki aankhon main bala ka samandar hota hai"

"Magar ye to bohat si aurton main hota hai?"

"Haan magar mukammal aurat woh hoti hai, jo wisal ke baad bhi mard ko baar baar apni taraf khenchti hai. Jese koi badshah Qilaa fatah ker ke phir wahiN laut aaye. Bas ye aik aesa imtiaaz hai jo mukammal aurat ko baqi aurtoN se afzal kerta hai....Yahi woh mukammal aurat hai jis ki tasveer sadioN se har musaweer ne banane ki koshish ki hai' .

On Feminism

For a long time, I wanted to write about Feminism. When I read following interview/article: I think author said all:

"In terms of gender equality, I'm a fully signed-up member. Yet modern feminism is a litany of complaint, fueled by observing the world through a feminist prism—and that I struggle with. It's also dominated by middle-class elitism where a small number of women obsess over the things that really matter most to a small number of elitist women. Ideology demands that women are portrayed as victims at every opportunity. They are always forced, pressured, or coerced. Women, according to feminists, are incapable of rational thought or objective decision making. And where female victims don't exist, feminists go out and manufacture them. I can't help comparing young women who support real causes—like Malala Yousafzai with girls' education in Pakistan, or Fahma Mohamed, with female genital mutilation—with feminists who campaign over getting a woman's face on a bank note or getting tits out of magazines. I'm quite clear about which ones are trying to make the world a better place. There's also that insane group who parade statements such as "Prostitution is violence against women," and "Prostitution is an expression of pure hatred of women." This stuff is rabid, toxic nonsense. Apart from expressing how strongly some women feel about prostitution, those statements don't make any literal sense."

Read full article : http://www.vice.com/read/amsterdam-prostitute-diary

Patricia

I moved to a new neighborhood about three years ago and, out of convenience, started going to the nearest grocery store (Safeway). I try to patronize small mom-and-pop type stores, but unfortunately, those stores are fast vanishing from big cities. Three years ago, my first customer service representative on the counter was Patricia (as her name badge says). Her manners, smiles, welcomes, greetings, thank-yous, patience with annoying customers, and goodbyes are so infectious that now I wait in line to go to her counter. This weekend, as expected, the store was crowded. I realized I am one of many faithful customers. Five people were ahead of me, waiting for Patricia to check them out despite two relatively shorter lines. 

Patricia may be working at minimal wage, may not have a fancy college degree, and may have bad days. I am sure she has life issues with family, health, kids, car, etc. But she puts everything on the side as she works and smiles and radiates positive energy all around. 

 It says where the core of human bonding lies and how little money we need to make this world a better place.

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Inside Out

First I went to watch Jurassic World, and screwed whole fun by doing 3D version. It kills beauty of colors. But overall, was a very good experience. It was a delight to watch Irfan Khan, with strong dialogues in a major Hollywood movie of Steven Spielberg.

Today, I went out with kids to watch Pixar's "Inside Out" and loved the whole concept of movie. Human emotions (positive or negative) have been portrayed as characters and how they influence human mind. It was interesting to see the theme that negative emotions (sadness, anger, fear, disgust) are as vital as positive (joy) emotions to live a balanced life - and how they are important to create human bonding. (In movie sadness at last brought Riley together with her family). And, how other psychological concepts like imaginary friends, core memories, unused memories, sleep, train of thought etc. play role in our lives, were well done animations. Such complex concepts were simplified in a way that even kids can watch and understand. Its a must watch for movie goers.

P.S: Indian flick of Vidya Balan and Emran Hashmi - "Hamari Adhuri Kahani" does not deserve spending of $10.

Trailers: Inside Out , Jurassic World  and Hamari Adhoori Kahani